This week I met a very famous Bollywood director to discuss the future plans of our impending network on Sensuality & Relationships..........we
had a very nice meal in a wonderful restaurant (Blue Gin in Edison, NJ holds the greatest chef from Mumbai right now...) and the music was wonderful. Like every person I meet, I am a good
reader of energy and soul. He was casually dressed and very polite, but I noticed despite his laid back attire, he was still "wearing" his business suit. I don't mean literally
wearing a business suit, but in his ability to convey what he was about, he was "wearing" the suit. Now before I even consider going into business with someone so closely, I'm going
to want to know who THEY are as a person. Especially when you're talking about the kind of network I envision which is ALL about bringing the SOUL back into SENSUALITY. For
those who have seen me at least once already, you have already learned TANTRA rule #2: WITHOUT HAVING SOMETHING FROM WITHIN FIRST, YOU HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER THOSE AROUND YOU.
I feel it is important to be able to show others your "Soul Suit" in order to truly be able to wear your other outfits every day. Yes, I know that there are a lot of successful
people out there. Every person is "busy." We all are on our way to "somewhere." I have seen both ends of the spectrum: those who are giving their entire life to reach the
top, and those who already have made it. The ironic part is that most of the ones who reached the top have a few conclusions:
1) They wished that they took more time to enjoy the ride.
2) If they could go back in time and change something about the type of relationships they were having, they would.
3) The need to excel never really ends. It's a rat race, not a horse race, right?
4) Only a few people ever really saw them without their "business suit" on.
Which type of suit do you typically put on every day? Do you ever take it off?
What would you feel like if you put on a "Soul Suit" every day for
just a few hours? How would it make you feel, move differently, feel differently?
I am always thinking of my newsletters when I am driving in the car. I thought back to my
father, a retired NYS correctional officer for over 25 years. Coincidentally, my father is the best poet I know to this day who spent years getting fined by New York State for writing poems
for inmates who saw that needed some "guidance." It was not considered "ideal" for a prison guard to be writing poetry for the inmates. My father always joked that had he
not had the opportunity to get a decent job through the state, he might have ended up on the other side of the bars. He was a teenager always in trouble. So in his attempt to let them see
him as a person "without the guard suit" on, he'd sneak them a poem. My mother always fretted that our family's stability would one day be jeopardized because of my father's
mission.
One thing my father would wear regardless of the time of year, temperature or outfit is his clunky, heavy workman's boots. My younger sisters and I use to tease
him about them because we thought they were so ghastly ugly and HAD to be uncomfortable. We would even offer to "upgrade" them to "newer" versions on birthdays and such
but he always insisted that these were comfortable and just fine. In a way, over the years, I came to understand my father's identity was in those boots. He never wanted to be associated as
anything more than a working man, despite the fact that he could, in fact, afford to buy better shoes.
A year ago, my father landed in the hospital with liver and kidney
failure. I will never forget the sight when I walked in the room and my father was in a hospital gown...........with his boots on. My father was near death, and yet even in this moment, he
could not part with wearing anything else. I understood then and there, the suit he wore had meaning. I have to laugh thinking back to his wild requests for wheelchair rides outside to smoke
a cigarette while holding a urine sack, and in a gown and all, he was still wearing those boots. He did recover a bit, and to this day, I can guarantee you what shoes he is wearing today....
I mention this all because we all put on a certain suit every day. We choose our clothes carefully because we want to choose what impression we give the world about who we
are. Ironically, the suit we wear may reveal nothing about who we really are.
Be sure that if you are going to start connecting to the SOUL way of life, you start reflecting that in whatever way you can.
