Woman of Action

 So it has come time to answer the question to which one of my newsletter subscribers asked me weeks ago in response to a newsletter I sent out titled "Man of Action." In it, I quoted various types of men who fall under different types of action-based men, and cited examples from the Kama Sutra to show what a "Man of Action" must do in order to be considered a great lover. I love reading the various thought-provoking responses I get every week to my newsletters (as it truly allows me to get to know each of you individually AND intellectually……ahhh than you for indulging my Bohemian fantasies of intellectual grandeur….) One of the responses asked me "What is a Woman of Action?" A great question indeed and one that I can't believe I failed to address in the same newsletter as the balance of masculine and feminine energy should be paramount to EVERY good subject brought forward.

 When I think of what it means to be a woman of action, I conjure up several images of women who in my opinion only, are GREAT women of action who have inspired me. Now before I reveal my list, I MUST mention that this list is geared specifically towards women of action in terms of expanding my understanding of sensuality, Tantra, or the sacred feminine. Obviously there are numerous women politically or socially who easily fall under a category of action but this list is particular to the realms of all things sensual or revealing…remember that.

 Nayka's list of Women of Action include:

    1) The ancients honored female sexuality as a regenerative power blessed by the gods. Astarte, the Phoenician goddess of beauty, fertility, and love, was more celebrated than any other deity. She was known as Isis in Egypt, Aphrodite in Greece, Ishtar in Babylonia, Inanna in Sumaria, and Venus in Rome.

    2) Mae West is known not only for her overt sexuality but for her frankness, wit and charm. Her quotes on sexuality are still vivid in my memory today.

"Cultivate your curves - they may be dangerous but they won't be avoided."

"Good sex is like good bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand."

"I only have 'yes' men around me. Who needs 'no' men?"

"I'm a woman of very few words, but lots of action." ---MAE WEST

    3) Natacha Atlas. Haven't heard of her yet? You should. She is NAYKA'S MUSE. I listen to her several times a day. If you've had a session with me, you've already heard her voice. AND I NEVER GET SICK OF LISTENING TO HER. My favorite song and video is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KeP-bJFg1bQ

(THANK YOU NATACHA for NOT showing us your mid-section, your bald head, your bad husbands, your DUI's…………………THANK YOU FOR BEING MYSTERIOUS…..)

    4) Tori Amos: Responsible for bringing NAYKA joy, pain, sorrow, anger, love, hope….Tori is action through BEING. Her music is like a puzzle. Once you figure out her hidden meanings behind her songs, if you get to the far end of HER tunnel, you cannot help but be split open, raw and alive, being. Just as music should really strive to be. MY two favorites is her rendition of Pat Benatar's "We Belong." (Nayka dedicates this to her lover.) I believe her LIVE rendition of "Winter" is achingly beautiful as well. (This one reminds me of my father who recently passed away at the age of 52.)

    http://www.yessaid.com/sonicshapes/2005-05-10_We_Belong.mp3

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbYqN9rrySw

    5) MARY MAGDALENE: the mysterious woman scorned for her overt sexuality.

    6) LILITH: the first woman created in the Bible before Eve who was cast out by GOD for not laying under Adam. Her story is not told as often but her imprint is not forgotten.

The women I have mentioned above are personal references of "women of action" to me. A woman of action to me is someone who lives their life according to their beliefs, passions and faith. They define themselves rather than to allow others to define them. A great "goddess" is one who is self-aware, a complete owner of her power as the holder of divine sacred feminine energy. She comes in all shapes and sizes, and is self-possessed. Many women today have mixed messages regarding their sensuality. Call it the Virgin Mary vs the whore complex. If women enjoy sex, or are sexual in nature, we call them sluts. There is no shortage of examples of such double standards in the media. I hear men state that women do not want sex as much as they'd like. I hear women say that they are too tired, underappreciated, not listened to enough, or sex is, plainly put, not enjoyable to them. No one denies what feels good to them. Perhaps if a woman is NOT afraid to be awakened to her sacred sexual self, she will take ownership of her "Goddess statue" and lead her man to an erotic sanctuary of her own.

Regardless of which sex we are speaking of, it is important to remind oneself that it is important to try at all. Sure sensuality is a constant inner battle of self-understanding, compassion, trust, honesty and desires. Why do you think we keep trying to get it right one day? I can never understand those folks who desire to bring their 'logical' side in the bedroom when the very notion of love defies all logic, reason and is in some cases, completely irrational! If we could all just perfectly pick out the 'logical' partner best for us, we would all be happy folks not even having the time to read these words! Love by definition IS completely about ACTION. It requires constant upkeep; it IS not a game or sport but a daily reminder to ourselves as to whether or not we still have the CAPACITY to try, the capacity to challenge ourselves, the capacity to believe, the capacity to love or be loved in return. I'd like to share two of my favorite all time quotes with you:

"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."

"Citizenship in a Republic,"
Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910

C. S. Lewis said: "to love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one. Wrap it around carefully with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket of your selfishness. But in that casket -- safe, dark, motionless, airless -- it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.... The only place outside heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers of love is Hell."

 

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